2018 Chapter two: January 10

Today was a balmy 40 degrees! Which means that everything is gross and Stella keeps leaving muddy paw prints everywhere and I don't think to take care of it when I let her in cause its January in Minnesota. It also meant that we went to the car wash! Which is really feels like the biggest waste in the winter, but also necessary. Both girls thought the rainbow soap was really cool, but things quickly went south and I ended up needing to hold both their hands for the duration.

Jac is maybe getting her molars. Or getting sick? Im not sure, but she's been a royal tyrant the last few days. I need something to explain away her behavior. I put pig tails in her hair yesterday and she cried for 30 minutes about them until I caved and took them out. Today she stole Blake's hat in the car so I reached for a toy on the floor and it was a play phone, with Jac wanted more than the hat - she screamed and kicked and lost her mind for 15 minutes. We were waiting to pick up Wade from preschool and I ended up just getting out of the car cause I couldn't take it. Really feeling sorry for the Blake - but she was playing with the phone pretty smugly. Just a few tidbits into life with Jac right now.

Today was Wade's last day of preschool for a few months. He's loved it - this morning he was talking all about what he might learn in preschool today! He finally settled on "I guess I don't know what I'll learn today." Both of the high school students that were his teachers gave him little notes - one of them signed it Emma. I've been calling her Sophie all semester! She never wore her name tag and I kept trying to figure out her name and one time Wade was talking all about Sophie, and in context it was her. Only apparently it wasn't. So, that's cool. Wade really did learn a lot this time, on Sunday he found some letter stickers and spelt his name all by himself and then asked me how to spell mom and dad (he had to ask me cause Husband kept telling him the letters in Portuguese and that was too frustrating). I was at the stove making dinner, he did this by himself. Feeling obnoxiously proud.

Meanwhile, the girls discovered that grapes rest perfectly in the little holes of these chairs and when you poke your finger through that the grapes pop up.

Wade's been really into "what people do" phrases. "People wear shirts at night, right?" "People wear coats at the dentist." "I don't need pants cause people don't wear pants to bed." He's checking on the social normality of everything - but mostly justifying any behavior he wants cause that's what people do. 

Wade's always stripping, as I've mentioned before, I'll often find a trail of clothes on the way to his spot on the couch or up to his room. He's actually keeping them on more! But there's always a reason. If he doesn't want to be under the blanket, he'll keep is pants on. If he wants under a blanket, pants come off. But sometimes its just too much work to pull them up after going potty, so he just pulls up his underwear (which, went to the doctor last week cause he was going pee every 5 minutes, everything came back fine, so we've just been encouraging him to hold it and he has. Now we get reports on if he's holding he pee). Shirts get worn more because people wear shirts - but they get taken off if they're spilled on. This week there was a first of "Mom, can I take my shirt off, cause it doesn't have a tag." I've noticed that he likes to play with the tags on his shirts, but I never pieced together that it was important. 

Yesterday Wade asked, "Can I have milk to wash down the cookie dirt in my teeth? They're so dirty!!" 

Mama and Papa Billa got the girls baby doll beds for Christmas. We finally braved IKEA and picked them up. I assembled one and explained to everyone that they're only for baby dolls, not for big kids to climb on. The base of the one was broken before I had the first piece of the second screwed together. They were terribly thin particle board pieces (while the rest of the crib is pine and sturdy) so we thought we'd just cut out some wood to stick in, but turned out they work really well without a base in them at all! 

I've decided to organize my craft room (which, judging by the amount of craft crap I have, I should do more crafts). Which involved another trip to IKEA, this time with friends and with the first day of Jac's impressive unreasonableness. So grateful for friends that happily help mother my children and don't make me feel weird or bad or like a burden - my village is great, just busy. We also went to Mendard's solo to buy some shelves - the girls were extra helpful. 

 Putting them together was pretty ridiculous - the directions talk about sliding stuff into place and using a light tap of the hammer if necessary, meanwhile I'm pounding the crap out of these shelves to get them to go together. I guess that's what you get when you buy cheap! Wade went and told Husband, "Mommy's not very good at building shelves. She mad."

The kids have been "helping" me organize a lot (Wade snagged the letter stickers from this mass organization). I must say that I did give them this paper that was pre-cut for scrapbooking, cause I knew they would love making the mess (and picking up all the garbage, of course).

And Jac is lying dramatically on the floor as part of a dance routine. We've been listening to "The Greatest Showman" nonstop around here. Every time a song ends Jacqueline looks at me with such seriousness in her face and holds up a finger and says, "One more." And we always play one more. Everyone dances and has their favorite song - but Jac just goes and goes and goes. And she will do running leaps and twirls, and jumps off of chairs and some footwork and her arms are so graceful. It's awesome. She'll mimic everything I do - it's much cuter on a two year old. In my mind I look awesome, but then I catch a glimpse in the window and I look like an idiot. I did almost break my banister from trying to do a swinging jump off it. I also realized that I can't hold the banister and stick my leg out without hitting the wall with my heel. I did find a aerial dancing place that I'm signing up for! So then I can look like an idiot in front of people and suspended from a hammock in the air. Oh, and I learned that I can still do a back bend. High fives all around. 

 We made a Joann's trip (cause my craft stuff is all organized so now I can buy more...). These two turn into everyones favorites everywhere we go. They playing and smiling - people make such positive comments. Someones running away (Jac) or sitting defiantly (Blake) or screaming their heads off (both) - people make such positive (encouraging) comments.

This was by far my favorite: 

We got a third donkey this week so we can really have a running of the bulls (donkeys) situation in the main of our house. Many races. Many crashes. They love these things. We've had them over a year and they're just now getting used regularly. 

 Girls got new bedding this week!!

Blake followed me upstairs to put the bedding on, cause she's my helper/a loner. I watched her play (and admired how cute this room is and how it's coming together!!). She immediately went and got toys from Wade's room and sat on the bed to play with them. 

Then she was playing with all the baby dolls. And trolls. Oh, these dumb trolls. I keep finding their pink hair EVERYWHERE! And then I'm sitting watching Blake as she pulls the hair out and tries to stick it on the bald babies heads! I told Husband and he said that he found some stuck to his stubble when he went the bathroom at 10 am. Haha, how many people saw that?! What a destructive little stinker. 

But, really, so destructive. Look up to the first picture of their room - there's a pompom blanket that I made. What you don't see in the picture is that there used to be two and that one is the lone survivor. This morning I came in and found this yarn carnage. One pompom made it. Then when I went to change Blake's clothes I found a few more handfuls of yarns shoved inside her jammies. Cause she's a hoarder too. 

The other night Husband was putting the girls down and he took away a little purse from Blake and she freaked out and was crying, "Poppy, Poppy!" Husband didn't know what she was talking about, so he opened the purse and there was just underwear in there that he emptied out on the bed. She grabbed them, cuddled them and fell asleep. They're clean, never been used. I feel like that needed to be said. But they were her Poppy underwear. 

Bedtime continues to be a struggle with the girls. Our newest attempt is to tell them it's quiet time and they can play in their room and then we come back in around 8 to do actual bed time with them. Wade still goes down at 7 - he's always been my major sleep lover. How's this new method going? I don't know, tonight was the first night and I was at young women's - but they girls were awake when I got home. I'm actually typing this in their room so I could sit here while they fell asleep. I think one of the best bedtimes we've had this week was when I was sitting outside the door and Jac came out and saw that I was eating an apple - she screamed and kicked the wall for a solid amount of time, finally I gave them both a bite of the apple and then they crawled into bed and fell asleep. You'd think I should just give them whatever they want so they'll go to bed, but apparently the tantrum is all part of it. 

We've got a big storm coming in tonight, so planning to hunker down and be home bodies for a few days. Which will be hard - cause three stir crazy littles is always interesting. But I did go to the library to get some books, cause I guess there's some research out there that says how much your kids see you read directly correlates to their love of reading...so guess I better ignore them and let them see me read. But, really, they'll just continue the mayhem and destruction of all my clean spaces: 

And create games that require "more soft stuff" to be pulled from all their rooms (we also have a pillow pit currently in the TV room) and play more hide and seek and dance more. Definitely dance more. And maybe be under table trolls the tickle feet. 

Oh, this week was draining. I almost said hard, which I guess it was, but it was also so amazingly fun (cause dancing and organizing stuff is apparently my idea of a good time). But I need to keep moving and working on stuff - even if it takes longer cause of needy littles, I can't just not. We all go crazy then. Their best play is when I'm working on something and they find stuff to do too - often it's them coming in to help me, but if that gets boring then they figure it out. I kinda feel like it helps me be a good mom to work on my projects, but also to give them time to let them figure it out - playing together, figuring out fights. I love when I hear one cry and then someone else mediate. Or seeing them come up with games (like under table trolls).  I was talking to a friend this week and she told me that she made a 2018 one word mantra. Her's is charity. Mine is health. I was to make decision that are healthy for me and my family. That means more water (less dr pepper or I guess just a lot of peeing), being more okay about toy messes, remembering to read scriptures together, more vegetables, less screen time. It means a lot of things that will be fluid, but I like the idea of living a healthier life - making habits that can be carried forward. And I'm pretty confident that aerial dancing fits nicely in with my mantra. 


2018 Chapter One: January 3

Wade cam out of his room when I got home from young women's tonight and I told him to go get in bed - he went in wailing and when I went to check on him he said he made me something and wanted to show me. So, my name is mud. Here's what he made me: 

It's a house, with his garbage people on it and even a pretty flower out front (his words). I guess he told Husband that he was going to wake up to show me his house, and he did, he totally did. 

Wade found a Thor Pez dispenser this week and he called it Jesus - he really wanted the Jesus/Thor Pez dispense and I had a really hard time saying no. He's also made up a song that I'm assuming is called Jesus Christ, cause the only lyrics are Jesus Christ sang over and over again - occasionally there's something about his birthday or how he loves him or something similar. 

Another Wade update - guess I'll get them all said right now - he's been peeing a lot. Like, sometimes 5+ times in a half hour. So, he has a doctors appointment tomorrow. Hoping it's nothing. I've been asking him if it's hurting or trying to figure out any clues, so now he's under the impression that he needs to announce to me every time he pees - no matter where I am, he yells to make sure I know that he's going pee! And he keeps needing to finish what he's doing, but he needs to pee...so
he starts pulling down his underwear and then has to run to the bathroom with them around his knees. 

Lots of tantrums this week: 

Double time out. Nana and Papa came in town this week and everyone had so much fun - but also so many fights, cause everyone was going at 100 mph and wanting all the attention and being overall excited and exhausted. 

We also went down to the family farm for New Years Eve (we got there the day before NYE and left on NYE). It was so cold that I kept having to scrape the inside window of our car so Husband could see outside  (mostly cause Stella is such a nervous car rider that she kept breathing heavy on the window. Dumb dog). There were two adults to every little kid, which made the whole trip so worth it. 

There was a lot of "running of the children." 

All my kids love Aunt Karen. Both her and her husband, Dave, have this pull on my kids. I love watching it. Jacqueline was certain that Karen should be holding her. Always.

Blake discovered that Jonathan needed to work on his legs. 

We did a little gift thing - it was supposed to be a game, but they were all to young to get it, so they just ripped open some silly little gifts. Which, they loved. And I now have another batch of stickers all over my house and bunch of little toys everywhere. Woohoo.

Then we got home and four hours late had 30 people at our house for an impromptu New Years party! 

One friend brought over decorations she impulse bought and we threw up a picture booth. Then we took pictures. We had so much good food! People were playing pool and watching a movie downstairs, there were games, food and video games upstairs. Then kids running around and filling in all the cracks. 

The build up to midnight was so loud and fun - the buzz was wonderful. I don't think I've ever had such a fun New Years! It helped that my girls were in bed before anyone got there, then Wade was down before midnight. 

Then 15 minutes later everyone was headed out the door and we were in bed by 12:30. My kind of people! Cause, as I said, my girls went to bed at their normal time, so they woke up at their usual time. I got to get up with them, but took an amazing nap later - so it was a great trade off. 

Everyone is gone. My house is (almost) void of Christmas decor. I still haven't gotten around to mopping my floor. And I keep finding random food plates. Also been headed out and getting stuff 90% off at Target. So I guess my house isn't void of Christmas stuff, cause I keep bringing in more stuff...also, fake pine needles. Everywhere. Pretty sure I'll be still finding those in July. Must be why it's called Christmas in July. This is Blake on a Target run:

She's such a weird human. She's been climbing on the table and counter more and more. I continuously tell her to get off, but she doesn't listen to me at all (she kinda listens to Husband), but all her meals are now taken sitting on the table. Guess that's her happy place. She's also been getting stuck on the counter cause someone will move her chair or she tried to get off in a place that her chair isn't under her - lots of self made problems.

Jacqueline is a little hulk. Too bad her favorite color isn't green (she'll tell you it's pink, with great intensity). We've been building a lot with these little magnetic tiles (in the first picture of this post) and she jumps next to me the whole time I'm building saying, "Smash, mash! Smash!!" and then I'll tell her to knock it down and she'll jump on them with such gusto! Little stink won't make her own towers, she just wants to destroy others. Oh man, I just remembered that she did make a tower today and was carrying it around and Wade was on his way to the bathroom and had to detour and knock it down (kids are jerks). He got put in time out, and now I'm realizing that it was probably just pay back.

I've been getting lots of headaches and have had several migraines this last month, it's exhausting. I've been stretching and doing yoga. I'm still sleeping sans pillow. I've been trying to drink more water and now that the holidays are over I'm trying to eat less sugar. Feeling a bit at a loss of how to get them back under control. But also feeling good about cutting sugar, just wish I could feel amazing and eat what I want and have a perfect life. But we've been having so much fun here, but ready to get back into a schedule! Isn't that the truth for January? Wanting to reorganize, start fresh, clean out - I'm just resisting a huge urge to buy more storage totes and such. Maybe headaches are a good thing, they keep me in.